I'm reading Atomic habits. The book mentions that goals aren't the focus. The focus should be maintaining the system that and that the goals will happen along the way. An example from the book.
"The goal is not to learn an instrument, the goal is to become a musician."
Essentially the system that enables the goal becomes part of who you are.
Another example it gives are two people being offered a smoke.
The first says "No thanks, I'm trying to quit".
The second says "No thanks, I'm not a smoker".
The difference being going from someone who's trying to stop doing something to being someone who doesn't do it.
A small difference I would say but one that enables easier behaviour change. Think of yourself as the person you want to be. Do the things that person would because you are that person.
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